What do you see?

What do you see?

?The eyes can see a depth to us that is difficult to describe. When you consciously stare into someone’s eyes what do you see? What do you see when you stare at the mirror into your own eyes?

?What are you trying to see. I see the rawness, the need to be seen and wanting to be seen. But life and its experiences cover that sight with a film of assumptions and judgement.

?We need to assume so many things in order to get through life from knowing that sitting on a chair it will hold our weight, to walking across a road at a designated crossing we won’t get run over by a vehicle.

?But what other assumptions are we making which aren’t true; judging an individual based on someone else’s assessment, believing we aren’t able to do something because we’ve been told we’re not capable.

?When we really see what we’re looking at and ask is that really true, do we think it is something we have made up and want to believe because it’s easier, it’s non-confrontational, I don’t have to think about it, I don’t have to change or do we question it?

?Our assumptions are needed to get through areas of our life but are they serving you well or stopping you achieving things? Are you even aware of them.

?We need to question why we think certain things, why we want to think a certain way and what judgements are we making not only about our own lives but that of others.

?Do we allow ourselves the time to question ourselves on these assumptions or do we allow the noise, the distractions of life/social media to take over?

?When do we give ourselves the space to think?

?I know I have to carve out this time, this space to challenge myself and to see what I have been assuming about what and why I am doing certain things and why I am reacting in a certain way with people and things.

?Find the time, question your assumptions, look into and open your eyes and see.

(Inspired by Nik Askew)

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