Remember to Live Your Life!

I write this as a memory to my father aged 96, who died in 2020 in a hospital by himself, due to Covid restrictions which didn’t allow any visitors. He never moaned about how his younger years were taken away from him or that others owed him a living. He got on with life.

I went to visit the Bomber Command Centre in Lincolnshire last week (for those that know me will understand). It was a place he always wanted me to go to. I really didn’t understand the full extent of this until I went and then reread a book he had written. You see my dad flew Lancaster Bombers in WW11 from 1942 to 1946. He was a Flight Engineer and was awarded the Distinguished Flying Medal.

The International Bomber Command Centre project was brought to life by the then Lord Lieutenant of Lincolnshire, Tony Worth CVO who had a Passion, Vision and a Belief.

In 2009 Lord Lieutenant Tony Worth CVO formed a Trust to realise the dream of building a memorial that commemorated not only the bravery and sacrifice of those who served and supported Bomber Command, but also to officially recognise the significant contribution of Lincolnshire to the outcome of WWII.

From that dream, the International Bomber Command Centre was developed with a remit to tell the stories of all those involved in the Command during the last major worldwide conflict. The staff team have been backed by over 500 volunteers, from across the world, all sharing the same vision – Recognition, Remembrance and Reconciliation.

I never realised how the RAF was shunned after WW11 and how they were never recognised then, for the contribution they had made. It wasn’t until 2013 that the UK Government finally acknowledged how important they had been in the war and awarded the Bomber Command Clasp to those RAF crew.

https://www.rafbf.org/bomber-command-memorial/about-bomber-command.

My father stated in his book ‘Where Did My Youth Go?’- “that when he was demobbed he was issued with travel documents and shown the door …..five years of his youth had just disappeared ….his age was only 22”. No recognition. Something else that resonates with me is one of his final statements in his book “Do the young of today, those saying ‘Let’s forget’, realise that, had the Allies failed, their parents would probably not have been born?”

Life is too short not to recognise and remember who we are, how valuable we are to ourselves and to others. Reconciliation with how we were as children and what we so wanted to do when we were younger before self-doubt stopped us from fulfilling our dreams.

To Remember life is short and the present moment is all we have. The past cannot be changed only the meaning we give it.

Lord Lieutenant of Lincolnshire, Tony Worth CVO had a dream to recognise and remember the sacrifice so many individuals gave their life for.

It is up to each of us to ensure we get the most out of our life and not allow self-limiting beliefs stop us fulfilling our dreams or enduring an unfulfilling life.

RECOGNITION of our lives, being important. We only one life let it be the one we want.

REMEMBER the past but live in the present. View the past experiences as to how it has shaped us to be the person we are today and how this makes us, us.

RECONCILIATION of the child we were and the person we are today. The freedom to choose, the innocence of belief and of being you. How we are able to be and do anything today if we choose to.

Nothing is impossible.

Arthur Schopenauer “ Most people take the limits of their vision to be the limits of the world. A few do not! Join them.”

 

 

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