How to Create Wellbeing in Yourself and Your Organisation

Wellbeing is not just about feeling happy or healthy. It is also about how you cope with the challenges and opportunities that life throws at you, how you relate to others, and how you grow as a person.

  • There are various essential elements that contribute to overall wellbeing and positive personal and professional relationships.
  • By incorporating active attentive listening, appreciation, encouragement, equality, challenge assumptions, allow emotions and problem-solving into our daily lives, we can enhance our own sense of fulfilment and foster healthier connections with others. Individuals and teams flourish.


  • Listening means giving full attention with respect and without interruption to the person who is speaking, showing interest, empathy, and curiosity.
  • It helps you understand their perspective whilst gaining new insights.
  • By practicing attentive and active listening, we create a safe space for open communication and empathy.
  • It encourages independent thinking allowing the development for unique perspectives and ideas. We empower others to explore new possibilities and embrace their individuality and promote their critical independent thinking, creativity, and self-expression.

💡 When engaging in conversations, focus on the speaker, maintain eye contact, and demonstrate genuine interest. This simple act of listening attentively can deepen connections and foster a sense of validation and understanding.

Your wellbeing is improved by making you and others feel valued, understood, and respected.

💠Appreciation by giving your attention and time

  • In our fast-paced world, giving someone our time and undivided attention is a precious gift.
  • Show appreciation for others by dedicating quality time to them, free from distractions.
  • Appreciation means offering genuine acknowledgement of a person’s qualities; try practicing a 5:1 ratio of appreciation to criticism.
  • It also means expressing gratitude for what you have and what others do for you, and give positive feedback and encouragement.

💡 This act of appreciation strengthens relationships, boosts self-esteem, and promotes a sense of belonging.

It can help you improve your wellbeing by boosting your self-esteem, confidence, and motivation. It can also help you strengthen your relationships and inspire others.


  • Encouragement is giving courage to go to the cutting edge of ideas by moving beyond internal competition.
  • It means supporting others to achieve their goals and overcome their challenges, and celebrating their successes.
  • By acknowledging and appreciating their efforts, we can inspire confidence, motivation, and personal growth. Encouragement fosters a positive environment that cultivates resilience, fosters creativity, develops a culture of learning and growth and encourages individuals to reach their full potential.

💡Offering encouragement is a powerful way to uplift others and promote wellbeing.

It can help you improve your wellbeing by enhancing your resilience, optimism, and satisfaction.



  • Treating others with equality and respect is fundamental to building healthy relationships. Recognize the difference and appreciate the inherent worth and dignity of every person, irrespective of their background, identity, or beliefs.
  • It means acknowledging that everyone has something valuable to contribute, by giving everyone a fair chance to express themselves.
  • Equality is giving each other equal turns and attention; keeping any agreements and boundaries.
  • Embrace difference and foster an inclusive environment where everyone feels valued and heard.

💡By upholding equality and respect, we create a sense of belonging and promote overall wellbeing for all.

It can help you improve your wellbeing by fostering a sense of belonging, trust, and collaboration.

💠Challenging Assumptions

  • Challenging assumptions involves questioning our own biases and preconceived notions by asking an incisive question.
  • When encountering different perspectives or ideas asking questions that challenge the negative or limiting beliefs that we or others have about ourselves, others, or situations embraces curiosity and open-mindedness

💡By challenging assumptions, we foster personal growth, broaden our horizons, and develop a deeper understanding of others.

It helps strengthen relationships, encourages collaboration, and promotes empathy.


💠Ease and Emotions

  • Creating a relaxed and comfortable atmosphere, where you can take your time to think and speak means offering freedom from the never-ending internal rush or urgency to do things.
  • Choosing a physical environment that says back to people, “You matter”. It means choosing a place that is comfortable, pleasant, and conducive to thinking. Help people develop their own environment if in the virtual world by giving time to get comfortable and create an area to allow for focus.
  • Allowing your emotions to be expressed allows for emotional release which then restores thinking. It means being aware of your own and others’ emotions, and expressing them in appropriate ways but always allowing them to be acknowledged.

💡Ease and expressing your emotions can help improve your wellbeing as it helps your mental health, emotional intelligence, and communication skills. It can also help you cope with difficulties and challenges.

It can help improve your wellbeing by reducing stress, anxiety, and pressure enhancing your mood, energy, and focus. It can also help you create a positive impression on others.

💠Problem Solving and giving Information

  • Information is supplying the facts, it means being honest, transparent, and accurate in sharing information. By approaching problems with patience, creativity, and resilience, we can overcome obstacles, build confidence, and find meaningful solutions.
  • By making informed decisions, it allows you to solve problems, and take action. It can also help you build trust, credibility, and accountability.

💡Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and cultivate a positive problem-solving mindset.

Wellbeing flourishes when we develop effective problem-solving skills contributing to personal development and enhance overall wellbeing.



By incorporation the above small but impactful actions we can create a positive and nurturing environment for personal growth, healthy relationships and a organisational culture people want to be in and stay in.

Remember, small actions can have a significant impact on our own wellbeing and those around us.

Create a true Thinking and Safe Environment for yourself and others.



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