Ball and Chain

What are you chained to?

Who and what do I believe.

?I have been living with a certain belief and feeling for a long time. I feel as though I have had a ball and chain attached to me for most of my life.

?It’s a feeling I knew wasn’t true despite all the logic in the world telling me this and which made totally sense to me but I couldn’t get myself to change it and feel different. People told me how I should feel and I would agree with them but deep down I would be arguing internally. Nobody could tell me how I should feel, I was the only one that could do that.

?I decided once and for all to deal with it. I asked my Time to Think coach and mentor, Ruth McCarthy to take me through a pure Thinking Session using The Thinking Environment.

?As a Time to Think Coach myself even though I know the format I found it such an amazing thought provoking session both on a professional and personal level.

?When I sat down with Ruth to have my session I already knew what I wanted to think about and I knew my assumptions about the topic concerned.

?Ruth and I delved into these assumptions, I was doing a lot of thinking and I needed Ruth to repeat the same question a number of times as different thoughts were being provoked each time. Eventually we got to the untrue assumption I had been living and feeling. No matter what people had been saying to me I was the only one who could understand why I had this particular feeling and belief. I was the only one that could tell me how to feel and really believe it.

?I was the one thinking this through which meant I couldn’t escape and couldn’t argue with myself any longer. I couldn’t keep believing the assumptions I was holding onto. The ball and chain fell away and disintegrated.

The conclusion:

?We are all different. I am different to you and you are different to me. Gender, race, age, experience, job title, culture, life means we can never be ‘equal’ as we are all different. But….we are all equal. Equality means we see everyone as equal, nobody is better than another, nobody is less or more than another. We all have life experience we can learn from, not envy or feel those experiences mean someone is better or less than us. We all have something to give and to learn from.

How exciting is that.

As Rich Litvin says ‘if you’re the most interesting person in the room then you’re in the wrong room’.

And

Remember

“Thought is not reality; yet it is through Thought that our realities are created.” 

 Sydney Banks

Thank you Ruth McCarthy.

 

 

 

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